Throwaway because this is just a BIT too specific for my main.
So, my siblings consists of my sister (17) my brother and his twin sister (13) and me (22). My brother is our only boy and therefore my mother takes up for him the most. It started out small, if he did something wrong, she would be there to defend him tooth and nail from us 'sisters' who often supposedly ganged up on him. I can admit I wasn't the nicest all the time, but back then I was only a child, often times my mother blames me for his behavior, and believes that he can possibly do no wrong.
But now, he is older and much, much angrier. He harbors so much anger that sometimes it kind of freaks me out. He will get angry if you poke fun at him (which we all do to each other, we're a close knit family) he will get pissed if you even speak to him the wrong way. My mother attributes this to hormones, but I can't help but wonder if she has created this entitlement within him. His twin sister does absolutely all of his homework for him, gets him ready in the morning, makes him lunch, and often times is ordered around by him without complaint, just typing this out is making me angry. My mother has instilled this "women serve men" outlook into my brother, and he calls all of us (his sisters and our mother) 'sandwich makers'. My mother sees this as a funny term, but the rest of us believe he is attempting to degrade us.
He doesn't believe women should vote, and he also believes if a woman isn't doing her job he should "slap her around a little" again, all things that my mother insists he is joking about, and she herself has joked about. It's completely awful, as he has hit his sister for not doing what he wants, whether that be making her play his favorite videogame with him, or making her make him food.
I have tried a million times to stand up for her, even going as far as to talk to her one on one about it. She refuses to stop helping him because in her eyes he is helpless and can't do it on his own. My mom often says 'God gave you (sister) so that you could navigate this world' which I think is a hugely unhealthy sentiment. The only one who stands up to my brother is my Father (56) who has admitted to me he really dislikes him as a person, but the moment he shows anger toward my brother, my mom will often come for us sisters, getting pissed at us for causing such a huge deal and that "he doesn't deserve it".
Besides making her do everything, my brother will relentlessly tease her about her art and other things (like how she needs to lose weight) until she is in tears, he also pokes at me and my 17 year old sister until we snap back, to which he either runs to my mom, resulting in getting into a fight with her, or laughing in our faces because "you're (22/17) and you're arguing with a 13 year old!"
I am so tired of this shit, and i need advice on how to navigate this further, there is more, but honestly its long enough as it is. Thanks for reading. ❤️
Submitted November 24, 2019 at 04:16PM by throwawayhorrayyay https://ift.tt/2OHsYnE
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