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Type Me

How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.

I am a 19 year old female. Whenever someone asks me to describe myself the first thing I think of is responsible.

Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?

I have had an eating disorder since the beginning high school so I think I'm more critical and self conscious, but it doesn't massively affect my life anymore.

Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?

I grew up in a relatively rural area in the north east. It was a pretty normal childhood in a small town and high school where I never moved until college. My parents are roman catholic and made me go to CCD until confirmation when I was 15. I always found it really useless and thought the teachers were lowkey crazy or hippies. Now I'm a lot more tolerant of religion but as a child I hated religion and judged people who were super religious.

What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?

I'm currently a student in college. I really like how free college is where I can schedule when I have classes and when I study. I usually find something to like about all the classes I take unless its a memorize and regurgitate class. I have a real hatred for the classes I'm forced to take like certain gen eds and first year classes. It's because most of the time in these classes every one is there because they have to be so it ends up being a waste of time and money. For example there is a first year class that is very similar to a philosophy class. Normally I wouldn't mind philosophy, in fact I really enjoy it, but I can tell that no one else cares which make the discussions meaningless.

If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

I would love a weekend by myself. During long vacations I usually show up a day or two early so I can enjoy the silence when no one else is there. Of course if I'm in a depressed mood then I can feel lonely, but that is only after a very long period of being alone, like a week or something. I love that I can do whatever I want uninterrupted without worrying about someone trying to say hi or ask for something (which is common in a dorm setting). I also don't feel like I'm constantly being watched like I do when I'm with someone (even if were not doing anything).

What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?

I like a lot of different activities, but for the most part I like non physical activities. Contrary to that fact I'm pretty good at sports. I'm naturally athletic, I just don't enjoy many sports. However, I love bowling and dance, with occasionally playing volleyball. I love music so dance is my way of appreciating the music I like. Bowling is a big mental sport and individualistic and I feel like I can always improve in it. I like cooking and baking because it's fun to experiment and see what you can make with what you have. Reading is something I do a lot, especially fantasy books because they usually build great worlds and characterizations where I can lose myself in them.

• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

Hell yeah. I'm always asking why and researching. I read about almost everything but more so in the social sciences like sociology, foreign languages, and others. Things that many people don't know, or help me under stand the world interest me. I don't look into the math and sciences as much because it tends to feel like memorization. I find myself going off on thought tangents where I just read articles, watch YouTube videos or documentaries, and just look at topics for hours. Because I find so many things interesting I often do find myself thinking and learning about more than I can handle.

• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I don't necessarily like taking leaderships positions but I end up taking them a lot because I feel that I can do the best job. Many times I don't trust that others will get things done and do them well. I'm very good at keeping a group productive since I hate fooling around when things aren't done. I usually delegate tasks since people do well when they only have to focus on one task. Even if i'm not the leader I end being asked for advice or end up being an example. I can be a demanding leader because I hold people up to the same standards I set for myself. This is all assuming I care about the task. If I don't then I perfectly fine with getting my shit done and leaving.

• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?

I'm not coordinated unless I'm trying to be. I am fairly decent at dancing and bowling requires good timing and coordination. However, I make a lot of small mistakes like tripping, knocking things over, and breaking things. I didn't think I was someone that worked with there hand a lot, but I've noticed that my fingers fidget a lot and I'll do things like play with my hair, hair tie, and pick my nails. I also really enjoy origami and building with Lego's. I hate mechanics and I think that's why I used to think the opposite.

• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

I find that this question is really hard to answer since there are so many ways a person can be artistic. I have always loved movies and theater, so in that way I am very artistic. I also appreciate art a lot. I love learning about the history, why the medium was used, what the intentions were, what happened in the artist's life, etc. Exception is Renaissance which can disappear for all I care because it's the same idea of painting gods and the same form (small rant). I wouldn't say I'm artistic in the sense that I paint and draw but I like thinking of concepts. For example if I were to decorate a room I wouldn't think specifically of what I want there to be but think about the concept I'm going for along with color palette and more. I won't think about details until I'm at the store buying things.

• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

If I look at the past it's from a history/for fun purpose. I also have a habit of thinking about dumb things I did in the past or how I should have done things instead. I have a habit of thinking ahead A LOT. I'm always planning my day and thinking of future goals. I wish I could "stay in the present" more. For example during the day I will be walking to class, thinking of what I'm doing after class, where I'm going to study, when I'll eat dinner, etc. I also do things with the idea of how it will help in the future, like studying Japanese and studying harder with the thought of being skilled at it by the time I go to Japan.

• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

This is also I hard question. Many of my friends say I am both very helpful but also won't do something if i don't want to. If it's a simple request its perfectly fine like filling up a water bottle or throwing something away for them. Usually when I help someone I expect them to also help me. Like if I pay for someone I expect them to pay me back within a day or so. Also sometimes I'll help someone I don't know well just to build up my reputation or to make myself seem reliable, as heartless as that sounds. But I do things for friends if they are in a tough spot or having a bad time right away without question. I will drop whatever I'm doing to help a close friend.

• Do you need logical consistency in your life?

Yes. One of my pet peeves is when someone states an opinion, tells me a fact, or argues with me without giving me a reason. I do not mind debating but I will not accept your point until you show me evidence as to why your'e right. My parents would get annoyed because I would always ask why and how long and ask what they were talking about. The only things that I'm okay with not being given a logical reasoning to is theoretical or existential subjects. Even when talking about those I want people to tell me how they came to a conclusion.

• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

When working, I need to be efficient and productive. It is very 0 or 100 for me. When I work I stay in the library until it is done or I know I can get the other things done tomorrow and have time. This is because when I relax I like to know that I don't have to worry about that thing. For the most part I go to the library, get my things done, and leave. It baffles me that my roommate can go there for 5 hours and barely get anything done, or go from 11pm-2am because she took a nap during the day. People praise me for the fact that I finish my work right away but for me it just seems like the most logical way to do it. Why would I put things off if I can just do it and not worry? I don't feel the need to be productive all the time because I know personally I need breaks, and know when I'm able to get the most done.

• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

Oof I feel called out by this question, but yes I am controlling. I wouldn't say in the stereotypical "girlfriend bosses boyfriend around" way though because if someone is doing something stupid, then I usually mind my own business. Especially if I don't know them well. When it comes to friends I think I end up being controlling because I am a pretty balanced person, so when people do obviously destructive things I call them out. But if they continually go against my advice I don't have a problem with letting them do stupid shit. If your'e not going to listen then I won't help when you have a problem and come crying to me.

• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

I said most of them before but I like bowling, volleyball, dance, cooking, baking, and reading. I also love learning as vague as it sounds. Just browsing through YouTube watching theory videos, educational videos, and analyzes. I find it really fun to analyze movies comparing it to how others saw the movie/show. Sometimes people get angry at me because I talk and spoil surprises because I usually figure them out early.

• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?

I like to learn by someone showing me or by lecture. I hate learning by sitting in a silent room and reading a textbook because I tend to lose focus very easily and find textbook writing monotonous. My favorite classes are discussion classes that require people to go into depth of the topic. When learning I need to learn about the topic because I will remember the general topic but I'm very bad with straight memorization. If I'm in a class that requires memorization I need to apply it in order to remember it. For example foreign languages I love the class because we only speak in Japanese and use what we memorize. I like lectures because if the professor is good, then they provide context and stories. I have no clue how people skip lectures, memorize the textbook, and take the exam.

• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?

Both? I definitely don't wing projects, but I don't micromanage every task. So rather than break it into small pieces I break it up into large chunks. They are also vague tasks, so for a project that is a presentation and paper, I would split it into 1. do paper, 2. Do presentation, 3. Practice presentation. I wouldn't split it into write intro, body, etc. If I try to do that I never end up following it. But I am good at prioritizing tasks.

• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?

I am not sure about a specific goal but I know I want to learn Japanese. I want to make enough money to be comfortable, be able to travel and a job that I enjoy and feel is fulfilling. I would rather die than do a day to day desk job. I tend to obsess over something and drop it a few months later so I find it hard to pinpoint a path to take. Also in high school I wasn't overly skilled in one area, and was well rounded in all subjects.

• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?

I fear failure and being labeled as incompetent. I don't really care if people don't like me for my personality or whatever, but if it is because they think I am stupid or unable to do something simple I will be deeply offended and find a way to prove them wrong. Small thing that I fear is bugs. Those fuckers could be anywhere and invade your safe spaces like your house. Hate small talk. You both don't care so why bother unless you both actually like something similar? Pet peeves are people invading my personal space, looking over my shoulder at my phone or laptop, and constantly ask me questions when they know I'm not responding. In general just people invading my privacy. That's also why I hate going out. I always say I have to be at least tipsy just to consider going to a club. I'd much rather go out to dinner with one or two friends and just talk. I also hate people ignore me. I only talk if I have something important to say so when someone talks over me or ignores me I feel very offended and like they don't care.

• What do the "highs" in your life look like?

Either when I accomplish something or when I manage to stay in the moment. When I get an award or am recognized for something it shows me that all my hard work paid off, even if its a simple "hey you're really good at that." As I said before I look into the future all the time so if I'm hanging out with friends and I just see the great time I'm having it's amazing. Sometimes just observing a moment or appreciating it its enjoyable for me.

• What do the "lows" in your life look like?

Whenever I feel no motivation. As someone who love learning, if I feel no urge to learn then I feel like I have no purpose. If I feel like I'm going no where its disheartening. This is different from enjoying downtime because I am choosing to relax and do nothing productive.

• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?

It depends on if I need to be. While doing important projects, classes, tests, work, etc. I can focus on them until they're done. If I need to be practical I will be, but in everyday life I daydream all the time. I'll be thinking of dances in my head, possible scenarios, or the book I just read. I tend not to notice things when I do this, on multiple occasions someone said they saw me and tried to wave and I never saw them.

• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?

I would probability sing songs in my head, which I do a lot anyway. Most likely dance to it too. My first thought though would mostly be why I'm stuck in a room and try to get out... but that's not the point of the question. I'd also imagine certain scenarios for myself like being a wizard, being rich, living in another country, etc.

• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?

I will think of a decision right away, but I usually seek advice from friends or those who have had experience with my situation or research it. I want to know facts when I search out advice though, not the "follow your gut" advice. I don't know, that's why I'm asking you. If I knew I would have already made the decision and you would only know about it afterwards. I'm always thinking about possibilities so I do wonder if I made the right choice a lot, but I rarely change my mind.

• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?

I talk to myself a lot, so I almost feel like I am constantly talking about my feelings in my head. Serious emotions are a little more difficult but I think that's partially due to my mental health issues. I hate expressing these to others and would rather process them and tell them once I know exactly how I feel...and that's if I tell them. If forced to say them randomly it becomes a jumbled mess. I think you need to address your emotions in certain situations, but most of the time I find them to be annoying and can get in the way.

• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?

I will agree with people to keep our conversation civil. If I had issues with someone I avoid them rather than possibly cause a dispute. That would turn into an annoying situation that I'd rather not deal with. But if I don't want to talk I'll get give the short responses until they get the point and leave me alone. Most of the time I just avoid getting into the conversation in the first place.

• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?

Only if I find them to be unnecessary. I don't understand why high schoolers vape in the bathroom and justify it as "putting it to the man" or "I do what I want man." Authority exists to keep order so they need to be in place, but that doesn't mean they are always right. If breaking rules it should be for a purpose and done in a way that it changes the current rule for the better.

That was long but I was told to be thorough....

Thanks for whoever reads this novel.



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São Paulo 2019 Parades - Before the Storm

Hello, my (three) friends! Carnival Parades start tomorrow, and my terrible procrastination means I haven't even started to promote this subreddit! Yay! However, that doesn't mean that I'll not do my job of presenting what'll happen in the São Paulo parades, even if I didn't present the schools before. So, here's a quick sum-up!


Yeah, sing it - Hakuna Matata!
It's a wonderful phrase - Hakuna Matata!
Our passionate community pulsates
Kenyan is the tambourine of Colorado!

Starting the works, we have Colorado do Brás, which's returning to the Special Group (the first tier of the Carnival) after 25 years. They've chosen one of the carnival staples on tributes to Africa, in their case, to Kenya. But they decided to spice it up by talking also about the famous Hakuna Matata song and philosophy. Yeah, that "no worries" thing you learned watching The Lion King. Colorado showed multiple excellent parades in the second tier on the last few years, and they're eager to show the world that they're here to stay.


And Casa Verde is here once more to dazzle the Avenue
Our cast doing a spectacle on your screen
Come on, be too, a character
The great star of the seventh art!

Next, we'll have a delicious show for cinema fans, as Império de Casa Verde has chosen the famous movies as their theme. A school known for their glorious floats, the Tiger has all the tools to make a memorable parade and awake a bit of nostalgia on all of us.

Fun fact: Since "Império" is Portuguese for "Empire", they went the extra mile and named the plot "The Empire Strikes Back". Império, may the Force be with you.


Tambourines will resound, the party will start!
Our percussion has the power of the terreiro!
Mancha Verde is Kizomba, dear!
Hail the Princess! Glory to the black people!

Before anyone asks, a "terreiro" is the place where candomblé and umbanda rituals are practiced. There's not a good translation for it. Anyways, Mancha Verde follows up with their own brand of afro parades. They'll tell the tales of Princess Aqualtune, a rebel Congolese princess that led her reign on a fight against Portugal, and, once defeated and sold as a slave in Brazil, lit the flame of slave revolutions. Surely a powerful name in the struggles of the black race, and after a close call last year, Mancha will fight hard for the title this time.


O Lord, hear our voice...
The prayers that come from the heart...
I know my wounds will dry off
On the day of the liberation...

After being excluded from last year's competition and parading as hors-concours due to an accidental fire in their costume warehouse, Tucuruvi comes back to the competition. They'll talk about the struggle for liberty in the Brazilian story, with passages about the black slaves, the indigenous people that were massacred and the times of military dictatorship here. Their goal may not be the title this time, but since nobody knows how well they would go last time, anything can happen.


I'm Brazilian...
I shall defend my nation...
O beloved, adored motherland
Don't cry for naught...

Coming from a title surely adds pressure on a newbie defending champion. Coming from two tiles may be too much, but that doesn't seem to be a deterrent to Tatuapé. After taking their first two trophies on the last two years, they want to prove once and for all that they're now the best samba school in the São Paulo carnival, and they'll do so by telling the tales of the Brazilian warriors, be them saints like Saint George, rebels like Zumbi dos Palmares, or the Brazilian population in general. While they're not unanimous favorites for the title, nodoby with a grain of sanity would dare underestimate them.


"Samba de Arerê" for your return
The North Side is Madureira
I miss you so much...
Look at the people wanting more!
There's still time to live happily!

Okay, so what the hell is a "Samba de Arerê"? Well, it's a song from the famous samba singer Arlindo Cruz, a huge name of the modern samba. Last year, however, Arlindo had a stroke, effectively knocking him out of what he loves the most just one year before he would turn 60, and thus, X-9 (yes, there's a samba school named X-9) decided to pay a tribute to Arlindo. Through his most famous songs, his story as a composer for Império Serrano and his tales of the Rio slums, X-9 promises to delivery a wonderful parade. And for great news, Arlindo has recovered enough to be authorized by the doctors to go to the parade! There's still time to live happily, indeed!


But, if someday someone asks me
My DNA is red and yellow
And I want to know, who will stop me?

Finishing the first day of parades, the dark horse of the last carnival, Tom Maior, will dive deep on the mysteries and questionings of humanity. What are we? Where do we go? How do things work? Can we invent more than we did? Was the last years' 4th place, the best finish in the history of Tom, a fluke? Or did they grow enough to become a top tier school? Well, there's only one way to know.


Look how ironic it is
From the colony to the monarchy
Nothing here ever changed
There reigned a badly-told story
Since then "republicated" by the hands of a dictator...

Nowadays, there's one kind of parade that's being way more liked than before, and that's social and political critics. Coming back from the second tier after an particularly infamous parade in 2017 (I'll tell this one later), Águia de Ouro is going straight for the kill by making a parade about the greed in the history of Brazil. Nothing here ever changed, but Águia surely wants to change things from last time. And they've added some extremely competent names to their lineup this year, so put faith on the Eagle.


Those who dream will live this victory!
Fighting and win is our root!
Ahead, Dragões! It's your finest hour!
It's time to be happy!

Dragões da Real was getting closer to the title with each passing year, only losing the 2017 carnival on the very last note. However, they tripped last year. Maybe they want to go back in time, because their parade this year will talk about the history and wonders of time. As well as how it's the ruler of the present. Are we slaves of the time?


There's my warring chant, I'm Mocidade!
Red on my blood and my color!
I go through the waters that Tupã blessed...
Amazonas... Amazonas... my love!

After an unusual slump on 2017, Mocidade Alegre lost the 2018 title on the tiebreakers, and they surely want to repeat the performance, only without the "lost" part. For that purpose, they'll go through the famous myth about the creation of the Amazonas river, where the Sun and the Moon were lovers, but could never touch each other, and that made poor Moon cry so much that its tears became one of the biggest rivers in the world. What a tragic tale, but tragedy will not be the end result for Mocidade for sure. They're title candidates, so watch out!


We smile...
"Yes, we can" dream!
Because we do have a future ahead of us...
Clenched fists... the Saracura is present!

Imprevisible and powerful as always, Vai-Vai is one of the oldest samba schools in the São Paulo Carnival. With their almost 90 years of the history, they've followed a lot of the struggles of black people, along with the numerous parades about them, and they're doing their own take on it, presenting the idea of a future where the prejudices and the problems of races do not exist. It's the senpai of the carnival saying that, so let's fight for that!


Gotta' respect my identity
Roseira is happiness!
The hope for a new tomorrow...
Viva, Hayastan!

In today's episode of "Around the World in 80 Parades": Rosas de Ouro! In a time of instability, where the school can both shoot for the top 5 or go into terrible slumps, the Roseira, as it's known, is paying a tribute to the country of Hayastan. Never heard of it? Then let's call it by the name in English: Armenia. Focusing on the recovery of the country after the Armenian Genocide and on the immigrating community from the country that went to Brazil after said event, Rosas hopes to return to their golden times while still giving Armenians the recognition they deserve.


Empire of the Sun atop of the Andes
Where the tears of the sky created a spring
Where the life flows from the waters
Glory to the Peruvian nation!

Don't leave the plane yet! Our voyage around the world is still going, because Vila Maria will take us to Peru. The historic country of the Incas, known for its lovely culture and culinary, is an amazing theme for a parade, and for Vila Maria, that's known for talking a lot of countries, making a beautiful homage for the Peruvians will not be hard for them. So, expect them to absolutely NAIL this one.


It's a rare pleasure
A flavor of emotion
But don't overdo it
As it's bad for your heart...

Finally, we'll have Gaviões da Fiel, the most famous samba school of São Paulo. They instead opted for reediting (i.e. reusing) one of their old plots, a practice that's rare, but occasionaly used to celebrate marks or because the school feels that it's time to try it again. Specifically, Gaviões is reediting their 1994 parade, "The Saint's Spit and the Serpent's Poison", about tobacco. 25 years before, Gaviões made what was considered their best parade ever at the time, but lost the title due to odd judgment rules. On the present, Gaviões is trying to climb back to their days of glory, and there's no better choice than the one parade that made, for the first time, an statement of how huge the idea of tying samba and football was becoming. To this day, Corinthians' fans still sing the samba at their stadiums, and that means Gaviões will come stronger than they have been in the last few years.


That's it! I'll probably host a watch party for it, but I don't know if the parades will be streamed outside of Brazil. If that doesn't happen, I'll just post the youtube replays.

Thanks everyone!



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[Spoilers] Review/discussion about: Houseki no Kuni

MAL Link: Houseki no Kuni

Genres: Action, Drama, Fantasy, Mystery, Seinen

Legal Streaming: Amazon Prime

Prologue: Just a dude looking to get better at reviewing/analyzing anime. I hope you enjoy the review and the discussion that follows! Critiques are welcome.

(For a better fundamental understanding of characters, please check out my previous essay on this exact topic "Houseki no Kuni, Toy Story, and Understanding Characters".)


The geological timescale views singular months and years as unregistered blips on a radar.

To us regular folk, though, even just a tough few hours at work can seem like an eternity. We value our time greatly, thinking about that joke we heard the other day or looking forward to that cool party in the weeks to come. And, as the saying goes, “Time flies when you are having fun.”

That’s why the here and now is so precious; the present is a valuable existence we can almost never take for granted. In this time, a curious anime titled Houseki no Kuni emerged, and the fact that we’re lucky enough to have it around should not go unnoticed.

STORY

Rorshach-summoned moon entities called Lunarians invade an Earth-like land inhabited by anthropomorphic crystals who devote themselves to their caretaker as difficulties unfold. Such a unique premise sounds rather intriguing, perhaps impossible. Houseki no Kuni, however, embraces this synopsis from the start, refusing to let its initial pull falter.

An excellent script gives this pull a lot of strength throughout the season with plenty of opportunities. The fun dialogue and the sharp scenes lead to surprisingly comical moments and lively interactions between the rocks as they go about their daily business. It can be trying to “wake up” Sensei, Phos fed up with an unlucky slug, or the lot of them clambering to see a new sight. Whatever the case may be, the anime brings with it a robust sense of timing and direction that equates to an engaging string of events.

This sense of flow also carries over into the dramatic elements which Houseki no Kuni touts on a regular basis. From a broken body washing ashore beside Cinnabar to the futile attempts of saving another, it becomes clear that its emotional weight balances out its comedic elements with a seriousness that warrants exploration of its meaningful themes.

Such themes align extremely well with the geode motif at hand. Personal discovery. True purpose. Innate worth. They are just a bunch of rocks, defined by their hardness, durability, and chemical composition, yet they are more than just a smattering of numbers or a litany of letters on a page. Rather, their aspirations of being more, their motivations of proving themselves demand a greater calling. For if even the very stones of the mountains wish for a grander presence, then surely these ideas must have some reputation somewhere.

Unfortunately, Houseki no Kuni does not always get it right, especially when particular story beats lack buildup on a writing level. The complication behind Phos, their arms, and the ice floes occurs over the course of a few minutes; Dia separates from Bort and then faces that separation within the span of the same episode; Rutile fixes up their long-dormant friend Padparadscha out of nowhere only to have them sleep again right away. Despite the impressive comedy and drama nearby, these instances demonstrate that the show sometimes values getting to that next crucial plot point over letting it simmer for better impact.

There’s also the trouble of how the last few episodes proceed. That this season definitely comes off as a first-parter when it essentially leaves many of the mysteries up in the air: the Lunarians, what Sensei seems to be hiding, those fish people who were hardly referenced after the first quarter of the season. Meaning, it concludes with a twinge of disappointment at the fact that its plot hasn’t really progressed past anything exactly pivotal.

This last grievance can at least be excused somewhat since the opposite is also true: that it does not attempt to rush towards an unsatisfying conclusion. Plus, the anime deserves further recognition for the consistent tone in its narrative as well as the frequent-enough action scenes which showcase a cooler side of the show. So, while the story couldn’t quite reach the loftiest of heights, it still pulls along a respectable amount of clout.

ART & ANIMATION

If Houseki no Kuni should be remembered for anything in the history books, its artistic vision no doubt claims a chapter. For it is not a stretch to denote this anime as a landmark project for the medium regarding the CG approach it daringly takes and the notable execution it ultimately achieves with it.

The show immediately takes advantage of its near-constant extra dimension with slick camera work. Following perspectives and dynamic shots enable the show to go for tougher angles and more interesting possibilities that are just not as feasible in the normal space anime occupies. Not to mention that the general cinematography for the various scenes allows the CG-ness to flourish.

It then goes for those extra steps. While regular stuttering in the actual animation reminds the audience of its 3D nature, it has a certain charm in that the anime isn’t afraid to embrace its computerized roots. Nevertheless, very smooth movements are common as Phos and the others engage in skirmishes and play off one another. The flowing of gold and the richness of fur also catch the eye.

When it isn’t typifying CG usage, the show still remains a sight to behold. Amazing backdrops not only set the stage for the ensuing battles and the calmer downtime they experience but also add context to the loneliness these characters feel and the wonder that their drive manifests. More to the point, Houseki no Kuni integrates flashes of 2D art (rather than the other way around in traditional shows) for its facial expressions and even particular scenes. It’s often subtle, but this melding affords the anime new options around most corners.

The character designs also deserve praise. Their attire coincides with the genderless state of their beings: casual suits and formal ties during the day; bathrobes before bed at night. However, their hairdos garner the most attention. The styles and the colors vary, and an alluring quality follows them almost everywhere as it bobs on their heads and shimmers on their shoulders to a dazzling degree. A feat realized by its CG strides.

Nearly everything coalesces into an incredible display of skill and prowess on an artistic plane. Indeed, this show is now what every other CG-centric anime should most likely look up to and learn from moving forward. And that’s not a shallow statement whatsoever.

CHARACTERS

Houseki no Kuni continues its streak of strong execution with its cast members.

Phos, the main protagonist, is key among this group. They begin as a weak, clumsy, and naïve pebble and evolve into a strong, determined, and inquisitive gemstone. Their extreme changes become emblematic of character development as the journey before them tests their might and their mettle in an almost uncompromising fashion.

Their personal Ship of Theseus situation modifies their body and their mind, implicitly challenging the concept of identity for another philosophical edge the anime hones. But their heart remains true. Constant failures do not impede their progress but rather instill in them the growth and the maturity they desire. In turn, their setbacks hearken back to that thematic take on self-discovery and guide them towards purpose for both others and their own being.

Moreover, Phos feels hapless and ignored and unwanted. So, they find themselves forced to confront their own weaknesses – known or otherwise – as a means of displacing their supposed inadequacies and thus quelling any doubts. Sometimes the outcome seems desirable; sometimes the outcome drags a haunting burden.

Yet they answer the uncompromising with a refusal to stop. They help. They learn. They mature. While Phos has yet to reach the end of their adventure, they have clearly gotten so far.

Phos alone cannot carry Houseki no Kuni. So, the anime pays attention to its side cast members, ensuring that they as well have a chance to shine. Bort fights as the strongest among them. Alexandrite studies the Lunarians with overexcitement. Sensei oversees his cherished flock with discipline and care. Even fringe characters like Yellow Diamond and Zircon have their own mini-arcs accounted.

Of course, there are vital supporting characters, too. Dia battles against jealous inner demons, and Antarcticite acts as a role model for Phos. One could argue that Houseki no Kuni drops the bar with Cinnabar, its next most important character after Phos, due to their lack of screen time. However, their outcast parallels, their contrasting attitude, and their sideline wisdom form a tight relationship between these green and red wonders.

With the entire crew polished to a refined sheen, it is no wonder that they place the anime ever higher on the pedestal.

MUSIC & SOUND

The OP for Houseki no Kuni can be heard here.

The ED for Houseki no Kuni can be heard here.

The CG is basically the mainstay of the show, but the audio decisions within Houseki no Kuni are no slouch over either.

Its opening track, “Kyoumen no Nami”, elicits fascination when plinking piano keys give way to a melody of notes that anchor the song to a forward momentum. The rapid tapping of drums, the bass strings in the background, and the powerful vocals charge up the song with equal parts imagination and sorrow while still maintaining its light, airy ambiance. It all comes together as a vibrant piece that primes the audience for the story that awaits.

Perhaps the crown jewel, though, rumbles forth from the original soundtrack as ancient moods and mystical atmospheres erupt from a majority of the tracks. Dancing xylophones and somber Asian instrumentation evoke an introspectiveness perfect for the narrative. Piano melodies, sweeping violins, and a rousing wind section quake with an orchestral stomp that captures the whimsical, uplifting, and dramatic parts off the anime. Hand drums increase the frantic tension during those common spats with the Lunarians. The ensemble is simply beautiful and memorable.

“Kirameku Hamabe” bookends many of the episodes as the season’s ending track, and it also earns its keep. While not initially as captivating as its OP or OST brethren, this ED grows on the listener with each subsequent listen as the finer details are heard. The blaring trumpets. The crashing cymbals. The rhythmic tambourine. All while moving at a nominal pace the whole time, letting the composition speak for itself. Overlaid with piano and a stoic vocalist, this track soars alongside the rest of the music.

The entire voice-acting crew does a swell job, too. Tomoyo Kurosawa as Phos nails it best. Not because she must as the lead but because she gives them as much personality as she can muster, capturing their jokey mannerisms, their naïve delivery, and their resolute tone, ranging in feeling and emotion as Phos undergoes their bevy of trials. Ai Kayano as Dia and Jouji Nakata as Sensei also get shoutouts for their performances. The former has a gentleness to her words that soothes the soul, and the latter commands with a low-sounding calm.

Smaller touches, like the clashing of stone-on-stone as the characters run through their marbled abode or the ringing emanated from arrows striking swords, further highlight the attention to detail Houseki no Kuni houses in its audio direction. Combined with everything else in the music and the sound, it’s a powerhouse of mountainous proportions.

ENJOYMENT

It’s always a pleasure being able to watch a top-tier anime.

This one had reeled me in from the beginning thanks to Phos. They are force of amusement and intrigue, and they are a constant source of awesome for the entire experience. I like how silly they can be. I’m a fan of their arc. I appreciate their spirit and courage. They have risen high on my list of favorite characters for sure.

I cannot forget about how much fun the other characters bring as well. Dia is lovely and cute with their wholesome kindness and their fondness for fluffiness. Rutile cares mostly for the science of their “people”, so their straightforward behavior when it comes to mending the “scars” and checking the “bones” of their comrades gets me chuckling. And Red Beryl frustrated about improper measurements makes me smile with glee.

Besides the fun, many of the dramatic moments are noteworthy, and its engaging, anti-nihilistic vibe forms a taut tether throughout the show. And it’s just inspiring to see. Not only since I’m a computer dude at heart but also since it accomplishes its goal of tearing down the current CG connotations. I view it as one of the first truly phenomenal CG anime, and I can only hope for a continuation sooner rather than later.

Until then, I sit here content, knowing that this anime has attained stardom already.

Houseki no Kuni surfaces as a fantastic project worth its weight. The philosophy of its themes. The groundbreaking artistry. The fortitude of its cast members. The serene music. The bulk of its entertainment. Any geological timescale will have this anime on its radar indefinitely.

SUMMARY

Story: Good, a very interesting premise, an excellent script, nice dramatic moments, and strong themes are held back by a few awkward narrative decisions

Art & Animation: Great, a CG landmark within this medium

Characters: Great, Phos is emblematic of character development, and supports like Cinnabar, Dia, and Antarcticite contribute to both them and the larger tale being told

Music & Sound: Great, a vibrant OP, a soaring ED, a stellar OST, a bunch of wonderful VA performances, and a set of smart audio design choices cap off the production values with style and finesse

Enjoyment: Great, Phos is a favorite, lots of fun discovered, filled with intriguing elements, and inspiring to see

Final Score: 9/10


Epilogue: Thanks for taking the time to read my review. If you want, take part in the discussion below! The future of CG looks promising!!! :D



Submitted March 01, 2019 at 01:33AM by BanjoTheBear https://ift.tt/2IJv0DZ

Tips for a beginner?

Hi, please correct me if this is the wrong sub. I’ve been interested in getting better at nail art for a few months now and so far I’ve been practicing just using the polishes I own and copying designs on Pinterest. I was wondering if anyone has advice on how to expand my techniques to learn more. Are there tools I should purchase? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!



Submitted February 28, 2019 at 09:00PM by fabulously-frizzy https://ift.tt/2GOa2lT

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Help with lighting design

tldr; need help finalizing my living/dining area lighting design. link with plan and pics below

I'm remodeling my condo myself and I'm trying to nail down the lighting plan. The main area that I'm concerned about is my dining room/living room space. I'm trying to lay it out so it's not too furniture specific... but I want to avoid just doing downlights in a generic grid. Seems like that's a recipe for boring and harsh.

My plan is to use wall washers (gimbals?) to add some drama, highlight art, and give the room an ambient glow. Then use some floor lamps to add some more ambient light and illuminate corners. Next use a few downlights where furniture is likely to be regardless of layout.

One of my big questions is how to address the dining room table lighting. Putting in a dining room "chandelier" forces me to put the table in that exact spot. But I'm worried that, without one, I'd need to use downlights which would make the area really harsh looking.

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this is the day my fellow ladies and gentlemen, the make or break day for the anime, the moment we've all been waiting for and after which TPN manga put the pedal to the metal, dialed it up to 11 and never looked back again

basically imo when it properly hooked me into a pageturner whereas before I was taking my time with the chapters, and in the process starts on the road of becoming a masterpiece of an intro arc in all of manga

I have been massively enjoying the anime, the previous so episodes minus some qualms and have been forgiving of some minor faults but Ive seen TPN slightly dipping in popularity in the broader anime community because so far its been covering the chaps which were setting the ground, teasing with blueballing cliffhangers and taking its time with little payoff

thats why this episode will be crucial, I demand nothing less than perfection and for them to nail each and every aspect from art detail to ost to voice acting to animation, we can have no compromises now, if they do today's episode right then just as the corresponding manga chapters did so for the manga, I feel today's episode will rocket TPN right to the top of current season's anime buzz and activity and boldly stake its claim for why its a very strong contender for AOTY(for the record MOB S2 is my AOTY so far, shit's just way too good despite my TPN love)

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Submitted February 28, 2019 at 12:32PM by STALAL https://ift.tt/2NFyJS9

6 years, 5 months, 14 days, now its over...

Hello,

I just need to get this off of my chest, hoping to feel some catharsis from just letting it out.

To put this all into a proper context, let me start at the beginning. My girlfriend and I had been together for 6 years, 5 months, and 14 days. Shes been working on her bachelors degree in mathematics for 6 years, and I met her when I was going back to school to major in physics. I went onto do graduate work so I could ultimately get a better job and also to continue to be with her. For the past 3 years, we've both been at a top tier university with a demanding academic schedule.

Every semester since we both have been at this university, at the end of the semester, we've had a difficult time spending quite as much time with each other because we are just working so hard to get everything finished. But typically, the semester would end and then we'd take a week before we went home for Christmas and just relax and spend time with each other. We'd get back from Christmas and we'd spend more time with each other before the semester started. Usually we would find each other, get closer again, and reignite that flame and everything would be good between us again.

Last semester however, something different happened. First, I should mention that her second semester at this university, she got a D in one of her classes (it is universally agreed by everyone who has taken it to be the hardest class that this university has to offer at the undergraduate level), and has been doing her absolute best to get a grade good enough to offset that D, but working for all she was worth she was just making C's. Shes been on academic probation since that semester. Every semester she'd get straight C's in her major courses and her GPA would continue to rise, but wouldn't break above the threshold.

Last semester, we both took difficult classes because we were getting close to the end of our respective curriculua and the choices were limited. About halfway through the semester, I found out that my Aunt was beginning to lose her fight against an aggressive ovarian cancer. I was trying to get all of my classwork done while going back and forth to the hospital to spend some time with my Aunt. I was spending as much time as I could with her, but there just weren't enough hours in the day. We tried studying together, but the style of studying that best works for me requires that I stand at a whiteboard and move around a lot while I ponder, and then periodically sit at a computer to program a function I've worked out to get an answer. Her style is much more subdued, sitting at a table and reading. I can't sit still for long, and be effective, and I can't be in the room wandering about or she loses effectiveness. So we tended to study in separate locations. Because I frequently needed to ponder my next step, I would usually go get food for her so she could keep studying without needing to stop. My roommate, a computer programmer, tends to sit still for long periods of time, and recently he got his first job so he has been studying coding techniques and has lots of free time, which he would spend with her to keep her company. At the time I didn't mind because she and I had been together for 6 years and I trusted her completely.

Around the middle of the semester, she told me that she had a sexual dream about my roommate. I really wasn't upset. I can't say blame her for something she dreamed about, and there is nothing wrong with having a dream about someone who isn't your partner. It happens to all of us. Though I did endeavor to try and take her out on more dates if I could. I figured, if I could spend a lot of time with her, then I could make what time we spent together quality time.

My aunt's condition continued to decline, and I was spending a lot of time just traveling back and forth. My classwork was getting harder, and my graduate research project required a lot of attention to finish as a deadline approached. I was doing my best to keep all the plates spinning but I was just barely keeping up with everything. Around Thanksgiving she revealed to me that she was attracted to my roommate. Their friendship was developing and they were getting closer. Proximity breeds all sorts of closeness. Honestly, again, I wasn't upset. My roommate was homeschooled and is one of the most socially awkward people I know. He was coming out of his shell and I genuinely thought that it was really a good thing for him. I didn't want to ask her to stop being friends with him because that would possibly stunt his social development, and she also needed someone to be there when I couldn't be. I was perhaps a little jealous that he could spend more time with her, but I wasn't upset by their friendship.

Then the finals came. I found out litterally minutes before I was handed my take home final that my aunt had passed away. I had to take in the information, store it away, get my test done and grieve when it was all over. That test was due after 4 days, and of those 96 hours, I spent 70 working to get it done. It was the hardest test I have ever taken. Then when it was turned in, I immediately had to go to the funeral, driving 90 minutes after pulling 2 consecutive all nighters. My girlfriend had 4 finals and managed to get high enough grades to get off of academic probation. She was ecstatic that she was finally certain that she was going to graduate.

I spent Christmas with my family and we grieved together. On December 26th, my father came down with the flu. On December 27th, so did my mom. I unfortunately had to leave them to go back home and begin to work on my relationship with my girlfriend. We had a few days together. On January 1st, we talked about the the issues we had in our relationship and we endeavored to spend more time together to work on getting closer together again. Litterally the next morning, my little sister called me and told me my dad had been admitted to the hospital. I dropped everything and drove 100 miles per hour to get there to be with him. A trip that normally takes just over 5 hours I did in 3.

When I arrived at the hospital, I saw my father being intubated. He was admitted for pneumonia in both lungs. My mother woke up 2 hours early by freak accident and found my father had a pale waxy complexion. She called the ambulance and they admitted him with very low blood oxygen saturation levels, incredibly low blood pressure, and kidney failure (the kidneys require a minimum amount of blood pressure to continue to diffuse blood through them, otherwise they experience cell death). I found out later that his doctors would not have given him a 1 in 1000 chance of making it through. Miraculously, my dad hung on. His doctors were amazing. They put him on dialysis to give his kidneys a chance to recover and regenerate, they put him on a ventillator to make sure they could keep his oxygen levels up, they treated the pneumonia. We had a couple of scary times where his numbers would tank. He got two more superimposed cases of pneumonia during this and the doctors were treating viral, bacterial, and fungal pneumonia at the same time. But he kept fighting and after two weeks of nail biting, he was well on the road to recovery. Enough so that my sister (a medical student) was confident that we could attend our first week of classes without worrying about losing him in the interim.

I came back home, excited to tell my girlfriend all of the good news and tell her everything that had happened. The first day or two it was great, we talked and spent all our time together. But then the semester started, and she went into the routine that she had developed last semester. A routine that did not include me. She would go to class. Go to work. Come home around the same time that my roommate would be arriving home, where they would have coffee and talk about their days. Then they'd settle in to study for a few hours and would finish out the day relaxing by looking at memes on Imgur. When I got back, I wanted to spend all of my time with her, take her out on dates, go for walks, go work out together, do all the things that usually bring us back together. But she was adamant that she didn't want to change the routine that seemed to work for her last semester. She didn't have the energy to both study and go out to do things like work out or socialize, and she needed to study. So I settled into trying to be apart of that routine. I had coffee with them. I read my research papers with thim while they studied, I watched the TV shows they watched. But the whole time I felt like the third wheel. I constantly felt like they were getting closer as she and I drifted apart despite spending all of my time with her.

I also noticed that they were very physical. Normally, I am not a jealous person. I didn't care if she spent time with other guys because ultimately I trusted her. I didn't care at all if she gave another guy a hug, flirted playfully with a guy, tickled her friends out of jest, any of that because I do similar things with my best friends. (I should point out that I will flirt with both guys and girls, I flirt with everyone indiscriminately because platonic flirting makes people feel good about themselves. We tended to both prefer the same physical qualities in people, and we would often point out attractive people to each other and would both admire them together. We are both strictly heterosexual, but we could still see the appeal of fine specimens of our own genders too. It was a playful thing we enjoyed doing with each other.) This time however was different. I didn't care if she flirted with other guys in general, but I did care about flirting with one guy in particular repeatedly, especially knowing full well that it wasn't simply platonic.

Another thing I noticed was that they texted all the time. One thing I do when I am with someone is put my phone away so that I am completely present with them while I am with them. I actually got a smart watch so that if a new message comes in I can check it and see quickly whether it is important or not and then if not immediately be right back in the moment. My father was in the hospital so I would check to make sure I didn't miss an important update. I usually offer the same courtesy to others, check it if you feel like something might be important, but be in the moment with me, don't be constantly checking the phone. Whenever we were together, they would be texting each other constantly which really upset me. Eventually it was bad enough that I told her that it upset me and I felt like she resented me for mentioning it.

Normally, if I see something that irks me, I will keep it to myself because 10 minutes later I will have forgotten about it and it probably wasn't worth getting us both worked up over something minor. But the flirtation was nearly constant between them and I simply could not ignore it. Eventually I would get jealous just seeing her closer to him than me, or every time they touched. Touch is very intimate for me, it communicates volumes in ways words sometimes can't. Eventually, I had had enough and mentioned to them that their physicality was making me really uncomfortable. This seemed to upset them both.

Up until this point, I was trying everything I could think of to reignite that spark between us. I suggested we go out to work out on weekends, which we did a few times. I tried to take her out for sushi, or Chinese, or just generally out to nice dinners. On valentines day, we went out to a very nice restaurant and had a very nice experience together. I bought her 2 dozen roses, found the perfect card, composed the perfect message in the bottom. I took us to an arboretum because she loves horticulture, I got her 5 new herbs to add to her garden. It was a lovely day. But every time I felt like we had actually made some progress, the next day I felt like she was pulling away again.

I was beginning to lose hope, but I was praying for strength to keep going. In a last ditch effort, I stumbled across a book called The Love Dare. It's a book for married couples who are struggling with their marriage. It has a daily message and bible verse as well as a weekly challenge. I figured I would give it a shot. The first weeks challenge was to pray to be shown what true love is and to be made into a more loving person. That night I slept well for the first time in weeks, genuinely enthusiastic and hopeful about the future.

The next day was Sunday, and we would go to church. That sermon felt like it was written especially for me. I was moved to tears because I felt like God was saying "Yeah, I heard you, now you're going to get what you prayed for." The whole week after that was filled with little moments. I had friends I hadn't talked to in a long time reach out to me and see how I was doing. I even had a couple of acquaintances notice that I hadn't been smiling for a while and gave me their phone numbers saying that if I needed someone to talk to they would be there. Thursday was my birthday, so we went out to the big city and spent the evening with my sister and her husband, and my brother and his girlfriend. I got to see two beautiful couples who loved each other with all their heart, and I felt so much love and support of me that evening. It was truly a great night.

Then that Friday, I went to see my dad. He had since recovered and was then taking physical therapy to regain his strength after losing 40 pounds from the sickness. Before I got to visit with him, he made me run a few errands for him. He had commissioned a plaque to be made to commemorate the birth of the daughter of a good friend of him and my mom. An incredibly strong woman who manages a popular restaurant and is a single mother. He wanted her to know that even though she was doing this by her self, she wasn't alone and she was loved. I went all over town. I went to the bank to collect some money to pay the guy. The tellers knew my dad and asked how he was doing and told me how they've been praying for him. I went to the guy who made the plaque who told me stories of how my father has helped him over the years. I took the plaque to the woman it was for. It was a busy day in the restaurant and she stopped what she was doing to sit with me and talk about my father for an hour. Wanting to know how he was doing, telling how she loves my parents, how they do things to make her life easier. Before I left, she sent me away with my father's favorite order cree of charge. Then I got to sit down with my dad for a while. I went with him to his physical therapy session and was beaming with pride for how well he was doing in his recovery. After he got back to his room, I shared with him all of the issues my girlfriend and I had been having. He told me stories about how he and my mom fell in love, and a few moments of hardship they've overcome, and some they nearly didn't. At the end, he said just how proud of me he had been for handling everything as well as I had. And just before I left to come home, he stood up under his own power and hugged me, a feeling I feared I would never feel again. It absolutely meant the world to me.

I began my drive home and had my own near death experience. On a stretch between my parents town and mine, I was forced off of the road by a semi truck who came over on top of me. I barely, but successfully, managed to keep the car under control long enough to stop. In that moment I could only think about my girlfriend and knew just how deeply I loved her. In that moment I realized that for the last few weeks, I had been paralized by fear of maybe losing something dear to me that I wasn't appreciating the time I did have with her. My whole perspective had shifted in an instant and I was truly excited to get back home and be with her. Before I left, I bought two pool cues so that we could play pool together (a pastime that we both enjoy) hoping that after she was finished with her last test, she and I could play together. I got an extra heavy one for me cause I prefer the really heavy cues, and I got a green and black one for her (our favorite colors).

When I got home Saturday evening, everything felt better. Before I had left there was a building tension all week and when I returned, I was so happy I was singing any song that came through my head. At the time, I thought it was because I had changed my perspective. The next day however, I got hit in the face with a lot of things.

I got ready for church and was super excited to go with her. We went, had another powerful message about how blessings don't only come in good times, but in bad times too. Then after the service we all stopped at Starbucks for coffee. When we went home, she wanted to go to her apartment to work on finishing the drawing that she had been working on to give me for my birthday, it was a surprise so I wasn't allowed to go see it yet. So I decided to go to work out while she did that. I returned home to an empty apartment, my roommate wasn't there. I didn't think anything of it. So I decided to go down to the study room to study. A couple hours later I get a text from my roommate inviting me to lunch with him and my girlfriend. Apparently she had finished it and had gone with him to the arts and craft store to get it framed. I thought that was a little odd that she didn't tell me they were going to do that together and felt a stirring jealousy that I immediately cut off because I was trying to change my outlook. The lunch was fine then we went home in separate cars (they were already out and I had to drive to get there) so I followed them home (cause we were going to the same place). I parked and went back to the study room because she said that she wanted to study when she got back home. 2 hours later, they arrive in the study room saying that she needed to water her plants (she has like 12 plants, I dont know what she was doing for 2 hours). Then as I am up at the whiteboard, I observe that their legs are intertwined under the table. I couldn't stand that, so I just left. I came back a short walk later and the mood in the room just died when I walked in. They looked like they had been caught with their hands in the cookie jar. I've been with my girlfriend long enough to know what she looks like when she is aroused, and she certainly was. I don't know what was going on, because they were right where I left them, but something was going on.

The next day I had put it all together. The building tension in the apartment was sexual tension. When I got back, it had been released because something had happened while I was away. I immediately texted my girlfriend asking if something happened while I was away. It was on Facebook messenger, so I could see that the message had been delivered, and when it was viewed. I understand being busy, but if I had seen that message I would immediately have said something to assuage any doubts I may have had. I got nothing at all until she came home. She said they just talked. I have been dating her long enough to know when she lies to me, and I've gotten pretty good at spotting her lying to me over the last couple months. I don't know what happened, but I do know that it was a lie of omission when she said "we just talked". We broke up about 10 minutes after that. She said it was because I didn't spend enough time with her. I said it was because I have been trying desperately for as long as I have been able to to spend as much time with her as I could. I've been trying to keep hope alive, giving her as much love as I could and getting absolutely nothing in return for all of that.

I spent the rest of that day at the local pool hall playing pool for the next 9 hours until they closed. I had a dear friend stop in and played with me for 8 of those hours, thank God for that man. We played with the cues I had bought for my girlfriend and I. It came as some amount of relief knowing that they was at least going to get played with.

The next day, I contacted my roommates former roommate and good friend asking him to check up on him for me. My roommate doesn't have a lot of friends and his family is not terribly close, so I was worried about him being taken care of. I went to our pastor and did the same for my girlfriend because while she has her family, she hasn't made many close friends since coming to this university.

My pastor said he was proud of me for how well I have been handling it, but he said that I should feel justified to feel angry. I was betrayed by my girlfriend and best friend both and I am losing both of them in one shot.

The truth is that I don't hate anyone for what happened. He was inexperienced, attracted to a beautiful girl who was flirting with him. I totally get where he's coming from. She was getting attention from someone when her boyfriend wasn't able to physically be there. Our relationship has always been relatively easy, we've never fought, we have always trusted each other, we have always been open with each other. Now for the first time, we had a real struggle, it got very difficult for the first time, and she seemed to take that as the signal that it was the end. I know that if we could have made it through this, we would have been stronger than ever before. I think somewhere along the way, my roommate became a symbol for something new and exciting, and became associated with the big change in her life when she graduated with a new job and new city. I think she also thought of me as consistent and familiar and associated me with being stuck in the same spot semester after semester. Unfortunately, I don't think I could have overcome that. She is also 6 years younger than I am. She is young, and I feel like this decision is that of a young person. Love is not just a feeling, it is a choice. I chose her, and somewhere along the way she chose someone else.

I don't know what will happen from here. Knowing both of them, I think they're very bad for each other. He gets bored easily and jumps ship quickly. He majored in math in undergrad, then in mechanical engineering in grad school. Got his first job as a software developer after looking for more than a year. Now a year later, he wants to change to a new job, in spite of the fact that he is well paid and well liked because he's bored with this and wants a new challenge. She conversely needs constant attention. She was an only child of two antisocial parents whose only friend were her rich aunts and their daughter. They gave her all of their attention through her formative years and constantly told her just how beautiful she was. As an adult she needs to be reminded constantly that she is beautiful and special, (which I did every single day). She wasn't perfect, but she was perfect for me. For each other they're terrible. There is novelty in this new thing that they are finally getting to explore, but I figure when the novelty wears off they will both realize this was a huge mistake. He will realize that she has already cheated on her long term boyfriend and will constantly be looking over his shoulder for the next guy, and she will quickly run out of new things about him and realize that their passionate affair will burn out quickly. I don't say any of this to say that they're bad people, just that they're young and neither have experienced this before. I unfortunately have seen it many times, in friends and unfortunately also in my own love life. I've been in her position, I've been in his, and seen both sides of the decision shes made.

This hurts terribly right now, but I have no regrets. I feel like I did everything I could to make this work. As much as I care about both of them, I am washing my hands of all of this, and whatever happens to them is no longer my problem. I genuinely hope I am wrong about them, I hope that they work well together, but I really dont think they will.

If you made it through all of that, thanks for reading. I feel somewhat better now, and I am going to try and go to sleep.



Submitted February 28, 2019 at 09:23AM by Stringytheories https://ift.tt/2To3dgz

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Type Me Questionaire!

What is your age?What’s your gender?

27 Female

Any medical diagnoses mentally or physically, that may skew any answers you may give? Please don’t answer if you’re excessively emotional at the moment. Also don’t answer these questions if you are drunk or high on drugs? NOte that if you have a severe mental illness MBTI is absolutely not the place to look for answer to improve this. Please go seek a professional.

Major Depressive Disorder

Are there very significant things in your background that you would like us to consider which may effect your typing?

Had an emotional abusive childhood. Not going to go into details. I was not able to spend time with friends outside of school until after High School Graduation. I never hung out with people before then so my social life was pretty much none until 18. Also don't have close family members so I mostly spent time with my brother as a kid. I'm currently going through consistent emotional stress because of an ongoing degenerative disease one of my parents have. It's been over ten years of the parent living with the disease, but it affects me deeply in the way that I feel inclined to take care of them -- although I have a lot of negative feelings about the other parent due to their lack of emotional and mental support for me as a child. In the end, I have distanced myself from both parents. When I was younger, I was not as emotional. One of the biggest turning point in my life was when the parent was diagnosed while I was a teen. It's been a struggle for the entire family.

1. When you are reading for information or studying for an exam what do you tend to pay attention naturally to most and why? How about when researching what is your methods and what types of information do you naturally gravitate towards?

I pay attention to the general information including key words and try to memorize how they relate. Admittedly, I'm not too good on studying haha. When researching, I gravitate towards interesting information and how they tie into the big picture. Statistics are fine but I don't get too involved into specifics.

2. Do you enjoy taking charge of the situation? If you are called upon in terms of leadership do you feel like you can carry this out?How and why? What qualities sets you apart as a leader? What is your leadership style? Are you a good leader?

I'm a terrible leader. Have zero interest. I try to avoid it as much as I can and don't have the confidence in it. I don't have any interest in controlling people or having any responsibility over others. If I had to be a leader, I would try my best to ensure people's best skills are put to use to optimize the workflow to get things done.

3. Would you call yourself mechanically gifted or like to work with your hands? Do you find that you tend to be a kenesthetic type of learner and/or person in general? Can you describe what kinesthetic activities you enjoy?

I'm too clumsy and not mechanically gifted at all. Actually, I injure myself way too often and don't even trust my own body. Honestly I don't even do many kinesthetic activities. Most of my activities involves a computer. The closest thing I enjoy that involves taking actions is light hiking and traveling.

4. Do you consider that you are a logistical type of person? Do you find that you tend to read in to the finer details of a situation, text, problem, etc... Explain what you mean by this?

I think I covered this before, but overall no, I'm not too logistical. I do find statistics interesting but in terms of how things specifically are connect and the finer details of how things connect, I am not too terribly interested. I love seeing relations and patterns between objects/ideas, but don't care about how exactly with fine details how they are related. I do like reading into the undertones and symbolic reasons/ meaning behind people's actions, but this isn't logistics.

5. What are your hobbies? Why do you enjoy these?

I like gaming the most and have been doing so since I was a young kid. I mostly play League of Legends competitively in solo-queue. But outside of LoL, I play games to relax such as Stardew Valley and Persona series. I used to draw a lot as well -- and unlike a lot of artists I met, I enjoy art when they are done expertly and enjoy "pretty" things. So illustration is right up my alley rather than fine arts. I don't draw as much anymore since I don't find it as fulfilling (most likely due to depression) I sometimes enjoy movies and watching shows, but if I had to choose, I wouldn't spend too much time watching things.

6. How important is efficiency to you? Why? Is it most important to achieve or accomplish? Is it a nice feeling to cross off tasks from a checklist? Why is this? Do you procrastinate and what are your thoughts on procrastination? What is your thoughts about being organized?

It depends. If it's efficiency for me, I think it's pretty important but as long as the work gets done, I'm fine. But if the task at hand concerns many people, I think efficiency is extremely important. Almost 50-50 with getting the job done. In the grand scheme of things, I believe it's most important to accomplish. But for myself, it's to achieve. Simply accomplishing isn't good enough for me in terms of my goals and career. I don't keep a checklist, but if I did and I crossed things off, it wouldn't matter to me at all. A checklist is just something written down on a piece of paper IMO. I procrastinate way too much and I know it's awful to do so. Being organized is important, but I can't seem to do it for the life of me haha

7. Do you set goals? How do you go about this? If you set goals do you accomplish them? How much of these goals get accomplished? Is it something you wish you can do more of?

I don't really set goals per se. I just do things as they come and based on what's required out of me. I tend to focus on goals people set for me or for my job but otherwise I don't really have anything written to be accomplished for myself. I take it day by day.

8. What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event what is it? And why? If not what type of activities do you tend to engage in? ?

I don't tend to notice my surroundings and remain oblivious to small things that actually happen. But I do notice strange things that other people don't notice because I'm constantly analyzing the scenery. For instance, how a tile doesn't align properly, or how dirty a window is and the shape of the markings. I don't prefer any sports, and for outdoor events, I enjoy sightseeing. But otherwise I stay at home mostly and engage online.

9. Are you always curious? Have more ideas then you can execute. What is your curiosities about? What are your ideas about is it environmental or conceptual and can you please elaborate?

I consider myself a curious person of oddities. I'm most curious about random things in which I would research online. I am a skeptic and always fact check. If something sounds a bit off, I would doubt it. I'm highly cynical. I'm curious about people's perspective, the undertones of why things happen, understanding more about the things I just experienced, played, or watch ---- and random shit that catches my eye on Reddit that I must know more about etc. I would say they're more conceptual than physical.

10. Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some forum? Describe your activity?

Nope. Too clumsy. I bump, I fall etc. I do not like working with my hands. I don't trust my movement at all. I'm mostly sedentary.

11. Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

I've been described as an artist all my life! I like to make things pretty and love complex / messy designs. I think my biggest flaw in what I do is like I the unordinary. I like to combine things just for the sake that they look pretty. It wasn't until recently that I got more into design. Otherwise I'm definitely more as an artist than a designer. I do appreciate art with great meaning behind it that I think it's hard to execute. I don't enjoy simplistic art unless it's done very skillfully (where I go, "holy shit, I would had never thought of this / I can't do this myself"). I don't like art that's completely open to interpretations. I think a good piece of art should send a similar feeling to everyone without it being blunt / obvious but of course, each individual would have a slightly different take on it.

12. How do you tend to make decisions by thinking about them or consulting your feelings or moral compass?Are you going to base those decisions on others? something else? What is this and why? Do you tend to weigh your prose and cons?likewise explain? Can you describe this process for us? Do you feel like you rationalize your feelings or that you tend to act on your moral convictions? Why is this?

I consult my moral compass a lot but I try to remain objective if the decision is concerning a big group or in a work environment. If other people are involved, I try to ensure that everyone gets what they want although it's not really possible. Unless the subject deeply upsets me and what I believe is "wrong" (in which case I would just disassociate form it), I try to make the most optimal decision without hurting others. I'm naturally indecisive since I spend too much time trying to weight the pros and cons. If the decisions concern my relationship with others (like a friendship/ boyfriend), then I make decisions based on how I feel is right and try to also meet halfway with the other person. I feel in a relationship things are different -- and if you don't fight for what you want out of it, no one else will.

13. Do you enjoy thrilling or adventurous activities? Can you describe the nature of these said activities and what they are. Do you consider yourself a thrill seeker, and why? Have you been called brave? Do you rather be comfortable then brave and see yourself as not liking risks and live a fairly non-risky life? Please explain either way?

To be honest, nothing too thrilling besides traveling and sightseeing. I love seeing architecture, nature, people, and cool things. I love exploring the possibilities. I'm not really a thrill seeker though and live a very safe life.

14. How much weight does past experience play in your life? Why does it matter so much to you? Do you tend to use these experiences some how to make decisions or somehow impact your current actions? Can you describe how this works?

A lot. I reflect too much. When it comes to people, I tend to remember how things "used to be", and have a hard time believing people's outlook and personality doing a 180. This may be due to my past. But I don't, by any means, think that things cannot change. I just find it hard to trust things to turn out differently if I've seen a pattern in the past.

15. In general do you prefer a more deductive type of logic or an inductive type of logical framework? Can you explain why and how it works?

I can't really speak for myself accurately, but I believe I'm more deductive than inductive. I do not like making baseless assumptions unless I know for sure. As long as there are outliers, I don't believe you can logically assume things.

16. Can you often predict outcomes of what may end up happening? Is it a natural reaction to act upon these conclusions somehow by how you foresee how events may or may not unfold?

I think it's half and half? I don't believe I am more skilled at predicting than the average person. I am cynical and untrusting, so I typically always think outside of the box when it comes to outcomes and don't trust the obvious. And no, I don't act upon the conclusions usually because predictions are baseless without facts to support it. If someone asks me, I can make the prediction or I can contribute. But I don't tend to act on it.

17. Do you often trust what comes out of brainstorm? And why? Are all the possibilities equal in weight. Are some more important than others. If there are different possibilities are you as excited to try out at least a few of them or is more or less the correct answer obvious.

Not really. I trust what other people contributed but I am never 100% certain about anything. I think all possibilities have different weight, but I never fully trust anything. I believe when it comes to testing them out, I think it's mostly beneficial to test a few out but if I had to decide, I would be most excited to test the one that seems best.

18. How about positive emotions? Are you aware that you are happy, silly, something like that? Are you always aware of your emotions. Or only when you are upset or have negative emotions? Do you care about your emotions when you are not in a negative mood? Or neither of these? Can you explain this? How do you experience negative emotions or possitive ones?

Yes, I'm always aware of my emotions. I never have any doubt in my mind how I'm feeling... but to be fair most of my emotions are negative. I always care about my emotions and try to keep my environment as stress free as possible. Negative emotions are normal for me due to my depression but I can spiral in my thoughts as they do get very intense. I always know when it's happening. For positive emotions, they are fleeting but I savor them when they happen. It isn't often though.

19. If Mary is sad are you also sad or do you just know, but can’t feel? How important to you if someone is maybe a bit emotional at the moment? Is it important to feel out the mood of the room and are you able to embody this feeling? Does it matter? Is it just more important to be rational or efficient? Can you please explain thoroughly your answer as to how you think you know or feel and how you have to duplicate those feelings or if you just do? If not can you explain why a more rational approach is more appropriate? At work or at school? How about in a friendship? What type of emotional support or otherwise such as proposing solutions or otherwise do you tend to do? Can you explain why you feel this is appropriate or the best course?

I would know she's sad, and also feel sad because I tend to be sensitive to the overall mood of people. Unless I flat out don't like them -- in which case I would just not care as much. But despite that, I'm sensitive to people's emotions -- but I don't believe I per se actually feel them. I usually match people's temperament unless they're too excitable. I can't match that haha. I think it matters to feel the mood of the room so you know what's appropriate to say or do. I don't want to make anything worse for others. As for rational vs efficient, if I have to pick one, I'd pick efficiency. If something is rational but inefficient, then you're just slowing things down and making things difficult lol. It entirely depends on the situation. At work, it's efficiency, and for relationships it's a mixture of all.

20. If you ended up at a social event, don’t ask how or right now ponder the likely or unlikely chance you would actually do this, just answer the question, play along. What happens? What do you do after you get some tasty icecream or some wonderful barbeque. we know you eat it at some point. But besides this? For example, are you the first to approach random people to chat with the or the person who just prefers to be by themselves? Why is this? I usually use the venue of an icecream social or some type of church or community picnic where there are people serving food to you. Do you chat with them? Why or why not? Do you feel you are mentally exhausted burnt out from a social event and have to leave early if it’s a somewhat lengthy event? When you leave, How mentally burnt out of energy are you? Can you describe this feeling explain why?

I don't usually end up going to social events. But in the case I'm invited to one by someone, I would most likely cling to them throughout the night. It sounds annoying as shit, but I honestly don't have any interest in meeting people and not a people person. I get tired of socializing after about an hour or two and would be inclined to withdraw. I will only make smalltalk to people if I feel inclined to (such as something that's work related). I do feel mentally burnt out and would be inclined to leave early typically. Being around people for too long just makes me negative and start to feel anxious. Honestly, I would ideally spend time with people maybe a whole day out of a whole week. Unless it's with a loved one -- I wouldn't mind spending every day with them. I'm not typically authentic or myself around new people or people who aren't close. When it's with people I'm close to, I don't mind spending much time with them since I can be myself.

21. How about spending a long four day holiday weekend at home, with not one person around. No, you won’t be inviting any friends over. Do you enjoy it, may be refreshed, or at the least be fine with it?Or, do you tend to feel either mentally burnt out about it or feeling like that you need to get out of the house, socialize and interact with people? Explain why and what you’re going through or thinking.

I think I could enjoy it and can be fine with it. It won't bother me. I've spent way longer home alone without anyone around. Whether I enjoy it will depend on what I do. I definitely don't need to interact with people.

22. Do you often focus on the details and the method of doing because you want to effect an outcome decisively, and in this effect focus on the methodology of how it’s done, in terms of how you and others are both working on this process. Please explain? Does the process of how you do it not matter that much and whatever outcome is possible is focused upon matter more heavily so you tend to be very goal oriented? If the latter likewise explain?

I think the process does matter if we're focused on efficiency and getting the best results. But if we're just doing any random chore or activity where we just need to get it done, then only the outcome matters. Typically, I care most about getting it done when it comes to everyday things and projects. Unless it's competitive, then it needs to be perfection. As a competitive person, when it comes to work that matters a lot to me, I care about the process too. But everything else is completion driven.

23. How much do you care about your general appearance? Why is this? How about your surroundings, can you describe it?Is it decorated, bare, minimalist, or what? Why do you make this choice.

When I'm by myself, not much. But I am self conscious on how I look. Because of my depression and laziness, my home is a mess lmfao. But idealistically, I would like it to be filled with things I enjoy. I love decor, figurines, and plushes. I am materialistic in that sense, but I don't care about having a nice car or a nice home. I like owning things that matter to me or look nice. I used to obsessively collect figurines and merchandises from a particular video game series I loved. As for how I appear, I like to look pretty and feel pretty. Nowadays I go for comfort, but my appearance does matter. I find that when I look good, I have a more positive outlook on myself. But I can't be bothered to get my nails done or take care of myself completely.I forgot to get haircuts, and scratch way too much. I just do what I need to look presentable.

24. Does the details of your surroundings draw your attention? Are you aware of the enviromental cues and details around you? How much does decor, colors, decoration, the aesthetic mood/setting of the place matter to you? How much do you notice it? Are you generally really in sync with this stuff? Why?

I tend to notice inconsistencies in my surroundings and how everything is put together. The aesthetic mood and setting does matter, but if it's not the main focus, I wouldn't really care too much about it. I'm more open to the entire experience. I do notice it however --- but it's not like it's a big deal. I just appreciate "pretty things".

25. ARe you a fan of the art of debating/argumentation and why?How do you build an argument? Why is this? ? Why do you like or dislike it or tend to do or not do it? Do you like to play the devils advocate? Why? What are you trying to achieve here? Can you convince anyone of anything? How and why do you do this? Please elaborate?

When I was younger, I played the devil's advocate a lot. But I did notice I'd get heated when arguing. I find it hard to separate the argument from the person, themselves. Because of this, I don't really debate as much anymore. When someone has a completely different belief than me that (IMO) reflects who they are as a person, I find I get extremely bothered by it. More than I should. I don't try to change their minds however, because I don't think it's important. It's who they are. However, I am quite judgmental of it. I think the thing that bothers me the most in debates is when people don't agree to disagree or try to understand that people are different. I think it's most important to understand differences. But to me, understanding doesn't mean I have to accept it. So let's say someone is a huge anti-vaxxer, and while I understand people have different beliefs, I would not even try to befriend them. I respect them, but I don't accept their view and can't see myself befriending someone like that.

26. How carefree and unconventional are you? Why?? Do you often enjoy clowning around? Do you care about making a fool out of yourself for the fun of it just to make people laugh

I've been told I don't care enough or take things seriously enough -- but I've also been told that I take myself too seriously. I'm pretty carefree with everyday matters, but get very serious and intense in stressful situations. I've been told I'm pretty unconventional in my way of thinking -- and I don't mean this in a positive or negative way. It has it's benefits and flaws. Sometimes my train of thought would get lost for people and I'd catch myself saying things that vaguely similar to the topic but is actually off topic. But this could be due to a disorder. I've been described "weird" in the words I use and my perception. I don't clown around with most people, but I do with my significant other. Around other people, I would rather not make a fool out of myself, but that's all I do around my good friends lol. They're usually all verbal though. Not through actions. Truthfully, as I get older I try my damndest to fit in and appear normal. This isn't a humblebrag in any way. I feel embarassed of just how offbeat I can be; I think to some SP and SJs, I appear too weird in a bad way and I lack formality. It creates stress in adulthood.

27. What’s our relationship with precision? At what cost are you willing to be precise? Why? What are you precise about? Is it stuff you say or communicate in some form, details of information, or what? How good are you with facts, dates, figures, or little details of a project??

I get too obsessed over perfection and precision. I think it's important in communicating (but people have described me as too generalized and vague in my speech / my speech is really bad), and it's important when you're working to express yourself. I'm good with the generalized ideas behind most facts, but I'm weak with details unless it's the few random subjects I'm passionate about. My S/O have described me as getting obsessed with the weirdest things and having to know EVERYTHING about it. I also know random tidbits here and there, but in terms of expertise, I don't have many.

28. Do you feel you need to understand the entire theory before you proceed to use different parts of it, or does the parts matter more than the Whole? Why? Does laying out the entire argument matter more to you rather then the conclusion or to convince others? In this argument does logical consistency and logical conclusions matter? Will a good argument convince people more readily than trying to force these conclusions? Or do you feel like drawing these conclusions for them on the way is more important? Why is this?

Yes, I believe in understanding things fully before doing anything with it. I would never call myself an expert unless I know the details and the whole. When I argue, I do not care for convincing other people. I only care to explain my thoughts + knowledge + observations and to understand theirs. I believe logical consistency and conclusions do matter in argument but a good argument doesn't mean people will be convinced. A good argument is one that is both logical and serve for a greater purpose. I don't think convincing others is important -- and I definitely support people drawing conclusions themselves.

29. Do you enjoy philosophy and why? What about philosophy do you like? What type of philosophy do you enjoy?

I would say I do, but I don't go out of my way to pursue it. For that reason, I wouldn't say I enjoy philosophy entirely. I just find it interesting.

30. Do you feel like mood matters to you? Why is this? How often does your mood change?

Yes. I'm fairly moody but not outwardly towards strangers. I think mood matters a lot because it sets the stage for what's actually happening. The implications behind a person's actions can be defined by the current mood.

31. Is making up your mind very important? Do you like to change your mind, change your plans? Why? How do you do this? How happy or unhappy do you feel about doing this?

In general, it's important, but I am not a decisive person. With that said, I do not like changing my mind unless it's really needed and it's to benefit the situation. I like to focus on a particular path and work hard to reach it. I don't typically have a Plan B. Personally I'm indecisive because I usually focus on what will work best for myself and others involved --- that I take too long to decide the most optimal choice.

32. How organized would you say you are? Do you feel as if you enjoy organizing your room or belongings? Why?

Not at all. I don't enjoy organizing in general, but I appreciate organization. I organize things by category in a broad sense and when it comes to files on a computer I keep many folders and folders within other folders to organize things. But in my daily life, I don't really organize my surroundings.

33. Do you often reflect and introspect? How do you do this and why?

This is 24/7 to me. I reflect a lot about what's important to me and what has happened to me. I also daydream a bunch too. It's fun to pass time, and when I reflect on the subjects I care about, I find that I am closer to that thing and feel more at home.

34. If people are to describe you what would those descriptions look like? Do you think these are true?

The average person may say I'm withdrawn, offputting, nice, quiet, understanding, offbeat, (somewhat) funny, and self-deprecating. I think they're mostly true since that's how I display myself. It also depends on the group I'm with. If I'm around a group of people that I don't care to impress, I would probably just be described as withdrawn, quiet, and offputting. Around people that know me better, they would say I'm chill, understanding, blunt, teasing, cynical, relentless but thoughtful. When I was younger and even now, I tend to correct people or explain things when someone is wrong. I don't do that as much anymore -- I've been told it ruins the flow of conversations. I chalk it up as my lack of experience in socializing. I think I withhold a lot of who I really am and avoid voicing myself because I don't share too much which can be offputting to a lot of people. I find that I consistently surround myself with NTs the most. Next is NFs and SPs.

35. If you wish share with us what you do for a career and why? Do you enjoy this line of work? Why or why not? What aspects do you enjoy or not enjoy?

I don't have a career for now. I'm doing freelance work and doing some social media managing. I do enjoy it more than anything else I've done, but I find it boring after awhile. I get so damned easily bored of anything I do, but I suspect I have ADD that's undiagnosed. The few times I've taking Adderall, I work nonstop and feel most at ease. I just get bored with routine but I feel most safe with it. And all of my jobs have been previously routine work. But at the same time, I am scared of change and new things.

36. If you were to plan a day for friends what would your day consist of? Why? How about if your friends were from abroad or out of town? Why? Tell us your plans?

Most likely traveling. Visiting neat shops and cool places. Maybe a really cool park, try some cool restaurants, and find really unique live performances. But firstly, I'd make sure that it's something they'd enjoy doing as well. I don't like focusing on myself entirely if it's a friends' day out. For the most part, I'm too anxious to do any of this, but if I was able to, this would be the ideal day. And then, perhaps end the night relaxing at home and talking about our lives and perspectives. Maybe play some video games.

37. How do you relate to your memories? What do you tend to remember? Why? If you were to recount your memories or past how do you do so or do you not do so at all? Does anything in particular trigger memories for you?

I tend to remember things that I've attached meaning to. It could be the smallest events but I like to capture that same mood. Seeing objects that reflect that event triggers memories. Listening to music that I liked at the time when an event happened triggers memories. I also reflect and think a lot, so I would randomly recall my memories too.

38. Do you consider yourself a gamer? Do you enjoy strategy games, chess, or even those big jigsaw puzzles? Can you explain why you like these games? If you don’t play games is there a reason for it or do they not interest you? Explain?

Yup. I enjoy puzzles and strategy but I'm not too good at them. I don't usually think past 2 or 3 steps ahead. I like games with amazing characters and storyline. I also enjoy JRPGs that are turn-based. I love thinking about what to do during battles but my reflexes are shit. I also enjoy League of Legends because I'm good at a few champions I play and I love the idea of working with others to win a game. I enjoy victory.

I'm fairly certain what my type is but I find I share similarities with some other types and would like to see your take on what I am. :)



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