First, I want to make clear on the fact that it's her body and she can do whatever she wants with it. I fully respect that as her boyfriend. In fact I think nail art is really cool and creative. When she first got into it (about a year ago) I didn't really even give it much thought. It looks cool and makes her happy, so who cares if she accidentally scratches me all the time due to the length of her nails and the fact that she hasn't gotten used to it yet? Not a big deal.
That said she likes to cuddle when she sleeps and I now have scratch marks all over my neck and arms from her moving around in the middle of the night in her sleep. She's apologetic, so again it isn't that big of a deal. But I'm getting kind of tired of explaining why I have scratch marks when people notice them. It really looks like I'm getting scratched up by her in arguments or by a cat or something lol.
Also because her nails are so long, she asks me to help her with a bunch of little things (button her jeans, open her face cream container, search for things in her handbag, squirt toothpaste on her toothbrush, put her dirty dishes in the sink even though we had always taken care to wash our own dishes in the past, etc.) throughout the day in order to avoid breaking or chipping them. At first I thought it was cute and I played into it a bit because she really wasn't asking much, but I mean ... this has been going on for months now. I can't drop what I'm doing every single time she needs me to open her face cream or makeup palette. And if I tell her that I'll do it in a minute because I'm busy, she makes a face and acts as if she's a child whose parent said no to video games before dinner or something.
I get that it's important to her but shouldn't she then find a way to function on her own? Surely other nail art enthusiasts have thought of ways to work around these things without asking for help multiple times a day. If it were once a day, I'd gladly help out. It just seems excessive and ... borderline immature and unattractive? Her attitude, not her interest in nail art. There's nothing cute about a 30-year-old adult behaving this way. The other day she called me (whilst we were both at work) in a panic because she couldn't find the tube of nail oil that she thought she had left at her desk at work and had to know right then if she had accidentally left it in my car.
No words.
I realize this all sounds very petty but it's getting to be a bit much and I think a conversation is in order. I just don't want to come across unsupportive of her interests or as though I'm trying to belittle her or something crazy like that. Honestly speaking it would be nice if her nails were a little shorter just so she wouldn't accidentally scratch me all the time, as they really do look like claws now (they're really long, they curve downward and they're very sharp at the tip) but I'll leave that part out when I speak to her because the way they look isn't the problem.
How do I go about this?
Am I overreacting?
Are there ways that she can go about her daily life without constantly asking me for help? Ways that I can suggest to her next time she asks without coming across rude?
tl;dr She accidentally scratches me all the time because she's not used to the length and she can't seem to open anything or do anything around the house without asking me to do it for her because she's afraid of breaking or chipping them. It was cute at first, but it's not anymore. How do I speak to her about this without coming across unsupportive?
Submitted November 24, 2019 at 09:55PM by longfingernails89 https://ift.tt/2qxjdk8
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