So all my life I've been overcompensating for my lack of feeling feminine enough by appearing extremely feminine. Liner so sharp it could stab a guy, cute vintage style dresses, nail art. It's how all of my current RL friends have always seen me. And I still like it, I've always had an interest in aesthetics, art and creative expression.
But I know that if I want to start transitioning I'll at some point have to come out to my friends. Problem is, while they're not anti-trans, they're very naïve and ignorant in their little straight cis bubble. I'm 100% certain not a single one would know what the word cis means, as an example, and none of them have heard of Queer Eye (Jonathan is such a wonderful example of combining feminine and masculine). To make matters worse, one of them got married to this hyper Christian, conservative, chauvinist, capitalist scum of a creature about a year ago and she's started to change her views to match his (to a point where she'll back him up on Facebook arguments about pro-life and such).
I have a tendency to start fumbling and blanking really easily if I'm nervous. Being able to take my time while typing something out here is very different to speaking face to face - and to make matters worse, I have extremely little experience with expressing these things in Norwegian (first language).
I was wondering if any of you have any good tips on how to explain how it's possible to be FtM AND still enjoy certain feminine things. They'll undoubtedly start peppering me with questions since their idea of a trans person is extremely dated and stereotypical, and I certainly do not fit that bill. I don't want to confuse them, and I don't want to sound doubtful or flimsy, like I'm confused and all this is just a phase or fad, you know? Just because I didn't realise I was trans before the ripe age of 28.
Submitted November 25, 2019 at 12:11AM by CaptainPensive https://ift.tt/37x7bHX
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