People who are the most adamant about something in their life are usually the first to betray that ideal: An opinion.

I really wasn't sure where to post this, so I hope it fits the sub.

I have a hypothesis, that people who insist the most that they won't change or alter themselves for someone, are usually the first to do so. Whereas, people who agree to be malleable and compromising are usually more likely to stay true to themselves.

Let me explain:

I know three people, all in/were in relationships.

• Person A, was fun-loving, wild, free spirited girl, and always insistent on being independent. Person A met a nice boy, fell in love, and naturally, converted to Mormonism for him. Pulled a 180 on her life, and all of a sudden, in this agnostic party-goer's life, there appeared religion.

• Person B, an aspiring artist, stubborn, and again, free spirited, was always adamant that she would never EVER change who she was for someone. But then, she met Mr. Right, and the art career's taken a backseat, her nails and hair's grown out from years of being short, canceled an art trip to England, and she's gotten involved in amateur racing.

• Person C, a typical nerd by all accounts, never boasted or bragged, always the kind to take the blame for something. He would be who you imagine someone could walk all over, but... He never did. He never was sure about himself in life, or at least, not in an extroverted sense, yet he stayed most true to himself.

Now, these are just three personal and anecdotal examples, not enough to build a scientific experiment on, but it does leave me wondering if there's a stronger correlation than we think on the perceived independent attitude of a person, in relation to their demonstrated actions.

I'm curious to hear what thoughts any of you might have on this idea, and I hope I explained myself well enough. Haha.

Submitted June 18, 2019 at 02:58PM by Steelhistory http://bit.ly/2KYHwPB