I'm F 18 and the guy in this story is M 19. We had been talking on Tinder (definitely not exclusive) for about three weeks before we decided to meet up and have lunch. Well, after two weeks on Tinder I gave him my Instagram and then my phone number. On the date he made some comments that were clear red flags. I'd mentioned to him over text that I do art, and I sent him some pictures of art that I'd done (pretty technically challenging perspective pieces and some photo-realism). He said he did art too and sent back a middle school level pencil drawing of a sneaker.
Anyway, on the date he says "Oh yeah your art was real good. When you first said you was an artist I was expecting you to send some cute little stick figures so I was real surprised when you were better than me". That just raised some little red flag because he automatically assumed I would be worse than his frankly sub-par drawings.
When we were talking about music a little bit later on, he mentioned a music festival near where we live and how that when he attended last year there were a lot of girls grinding on him which he seemed proud of. He then said something along the lines of "and this one guy tried grinding on me too which was just like ugh Ew" and made a face like 'well you know those gross homos'.
The final nail in the coffin is that he made the offhand comment that "I can't believe a pretty girl like you is dating a guy like me".
This was the first time we'd met in person. And we hadn't even talked all that consistently over the past few weeks. He now keeps texting me saying we should facetime or hang out or whatever.
My question is this: how do I tell him that 1) we aren't dating and 2) I don't want to date him in a way that most likely won't lead to him becoming aggressive towards me.
Tl;dr a guy from tinder who I met once thinks we're dating and I just think he's creepy. How do I deal with this as smoothly as possible?
Submitted March 06, 2019 at 08:09AM by helloheathlatin https://ift.tt/2XFh4yw
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